Directory

ENM-affirming therapists.

A vetted directory of clinicians who understand consensual non-monogamy and don't pathologise it. Inclusion is by editor review, not pay-to-list. We're building this carefully — initial listings open shortly.

Listings open soon

We're reviewing a backlog of practitioners drawn from community recommendations and the credentialed ENM-affirming networks (KAP, APA Div. 44 referrals, polyfriendly.org, the Open list, and similar). Each listing is verified — credential, licensure, and an explicit statement of ENM-affirming practice — before it goes live.

Are you an ENM-affirming clinician? Tell usand we'll add you to the review queue.

What “ENM-affirming” means here

ENM-affirming clinical practice is not the same as being tolerant of non-monogamous clients. An affirming clinician treats consensual non-monogamy as one of a range of legitimate relationship structures, does not pathologise it, has done the specific reading (Fern, Easton, Veaux, the research literature on relationship-orientation diversity), and can hold the structural complexity — multiple partners, polycule dynamics, metamour relationships — without flattening it back into a couples-therapy frame.

The shorthand many in the community use is whether a clinician will work with a client's polycule rather than only the dyad in the room. The deeper test is whether they treat structural problems as structural rather than as evidence that non-monogamy is itself the issue.

What to look for when you screen a therapist

  • An explicit statement of ENM-affirming or polyamory-affirming practice on their website, not just “LGBTQ+ friendly.”
  • Familiarity with attachment theory as applied to polyamory — Polysecure is the lingua franca here.
  • Willingness to work with more than two people in the room when the structural problem requires it.
  • No assumption that opening or closing a relationship is the presenting solution to anything.
  • Awareness of the legal context — custody risk, employment risk in certain jurisdictions and roles — and an ability to refer to a family-law specialist when that's the real need.