Questions & Answers
The questions adults actually ask.
Sourced, plain-language answers — no moralising in either direction. 49 questions so far; the list grows.
- Is ethical non-monogamy the same as cheating?
- What's the difference between open relationships and polyamory?
- What's the difference between the LifeStyle and polyamory?
- What if only one partner wants to open the relationship?
- Is jealousy normal in polyamory?
- Can ethical non-monogamy work with kids?
- How do polyamorous people handle holidays and family events?
- How many partners do polyamorous people typically have?
- Do polyamorous relationships last?
- Is polyamory legal?
- Can you be legally married and practise polyamory?
- How do I find other polyamorous people locally?
- What is a 'veto' in polyamory, and is it a good idea?
- Do polyamorous people have more sex?
- Is ethical non-monogamy 'just a phase' for most people?
- How do I tell my therapist I'm in a polyamorous relationship?
- How do you balance time between multiple partners?
- What if my partner falls in love with someone else?
- Is it okay to date a couple as a third?
- How is polyamory different from polygamy?
- Can a long-distance relationship be polyamorous?
- What do you do when a metamour doesn't like you?
- Can you be polyamorous without sex? Can asexual people be polyamorous?
- What's a polycule break-up like?
- How do you tell your kids about polyamory?
- What if my religion conflicts with ethical non-monogamy?
- How do you introduce your partners to each other?
- What if I fall for my metamour?
- Do you need your partner's permission to date someone new?
- How do you handle your partner's break-up with another partner?
- Do polyamorous people get married?
- Is swinging cheating?
- What's the difference between soft swap and full swap?
- How do you start swinging as a couple?
- Is swinging bad for a marriage?
- What actually happens at a lifestyle (swingers) club?
- Can singles take part in the LifeStyle, or is it just for couples?
- Can you be gay and polyamorous?
- What is queer polyamory?
- Is polyamory more common in the LGBTQ+ community?
- Why do people criticise the 'one-penis policy' for bisexual women?
- What is lesbian polyamory like?
- What is dating like as a trans person in ethical non-monogamy?
- When and how should a trans person disclose to new partners in ENM?
- Is ethical non-monogamy more affirming for trans and gender-diverse people?
- How do you navigate gender dysphoria and intimacy across multiple partners?
- How do you tell people you're polyamorous?
- Does polyamory work long-term?
- Is ethical non-monogamy healthy?